憤怒寶貝

有一種時候，我們特別容易憤憤不平。

別人一句話不對，就想回嘴；
遇到不公平，就忍不住一直想；
氣到最後，甚至會說出一些很重、很極端的話。

可是，真正需要被照顧的，也許不是外面的那件事，
而是那個正在心裡大喊：

「為什麼要這樣對我？」的自己。

所以，當「憤怒寶貝」跑出來的時候，我不急著叫她閉嘴。

我會問她：

妳到底在氣什麼？
這件事碰到了妳心裡哪一個地方？
妳真正想要的是什麼？

也許是想被尊重。
也許是不想再被忽略。
也許是委屈太久了。
也許只是很希望，有人能理解自己。

以前的我，總想著改變工作環境、改變收入、改變合作夥伴，甚至希望別人按照我期待的方式對待我。

現在，我慢慢把方向轉回來。

我不一定能改變外面的每一個人，
但我可以整理自己的心。

因為當心裡的位置改變了，
我看事情的角度、做出的選擇，以及回應世界的方式，也會開始不一樣。

不是把憤怒壓下去，
而是聽懂：憤怒究竟想替我保護什麼。

Dear Angry Me

What Are You Trying to Protect?

There are times when we find ourselves easily upset by everything.

One wrong word from someone, and we immediately want to fight back.
When something feels unfair, we replay it over and over in our minds.
And sometimes, when the anger becomes too much, we end up saying things that are harsh, extreme, or not truly what we mean.

But perhaps what really needs our attention isn’t what happened out there.

Maybe it’s the part of us that is crying out inside:

“Why are you treating me this way?”

So when my little angry self shows up, I don’t rush to silence her.

Instead, I ask:

What are you really angry about?

What part of you did this hurt?

What is it that you truly need?

Maybe you want to be respected.
Maybe you’re tired of being overlooked.
Maybe you’ve been holding in your hurt for too long.
Or maybe you simply wish someone could understand you.

I used to spend so much energy trying to change the world around me — my work environment, my income, the people I worked with, even the way I wished others would treat me.

Now, little by little, I’m turning my attention inward.

I may not be able to change everyone around me,
but I can take care of what is happening within me.

Because when something shifts inside,
the way I see things, the choices I make, and the way I respond to the world begin to shift as well.

This isn’t about suppressing anger.

It’s about learning to listen to it and asking:

What is my anger trying so hard to protect?

憤怒不是需要被消滅的情緒。
真正要問的是：憤怒正在保護什麼？

羅馬洋甘菊｜Roman Chamomile
Chamaemelum nobile

先降低情緒張力，再辨認憤怒底下真正的需要。

English：
Ease the emotional tension first, then recognize the deeper need beneath the anger.

（快被梗圖笑死了！心情不好的時候來看看吧~🖐️）

This meme is killing me! 😂 If you’re having a bad day, come back for a laugh and look at things from a different angle.🖐️

MissWu x

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